Wednesday, 17 February 2016

Bullied? Self help books that have helped!

I am preparing an addable list of books that have been helpful to us in tackling bullying and expanding thinking and ideas on how to live with and reduce trauma when bullied. Not forgetting also bullyonline.org which provides a really comprehensive description of what bullying actually is.

In addition to our recommendations below we have been pointed to another book link. We would also heartily recommend this link http://workplacebullying.co.uk/bookindex.html which has a direct link to several academic texts on bullying that would assist the serious researcher. As we have said before studying bullying EMPOWERS you. We do not want to take away from the excellent work Workplace Bullying has prepared and are happy to provide a link to their excellent list of bullying books which also shoot you straight to Amazon for purchases.

OUR PERSONAL FAVORITES

Andrea Adams -Bullying At Work How to confront and overcome it!
This is quite an old book now written by the late Andrea Adams and still appears to be available on Amazon. The book was written from the huge public response to a BBC radio 4 programme An Abuse of Power and Whose Fault is it Anyway. The book has illustrative personal accounts and self-help advice and is still extremely relevant. The book is a straightforward and simple read.

Tim Field's Bully in Sight. The venerated Tim Field the first and most prestigious bully campaigner who debunks myths about victims of bullying, bullies and bully survival. 
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Bully-Sight-challenge-workplace-Overcoming/dp/0952912104

Introduction to the psychodynamics of workplace bullying by Sheila White  www.karnacbooks.com . 
An analysis of bullying and why it happens by an acedemic and blogger on whybulliesbully.com

Oliver Burkeman - The Antidote. Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking

This book helped Belle through cancer and bullying. Not necessarily everyones cup lf tea as it is quite stoic, it is a really interesting alternative look at finding happiness whilst accepting adversity.

This is the blurb. In this fascinating new book which he narrates himself, Oliver Burkeman argues that "positive thinking" and relentless optimism aren't the solution to the happiness dilemma, but part of the problem. And that there is, in fact, an alternative path to contentment and success that involves embracing the things we spend our lives trying to avoid - uncertainty, insecurity, pessimism, and failure. Thought-provoking, counterintuitive, and ultimately uplifting, The Antidote is a celebration of the power of negative thinking.


Noreen Tehrani - Building a culture of respect. The main focus of this book is on organisational cultures and how bullying can flourish. It recognises the health and psychological issues arising from workplace bullying. It aims to encourage a culture of respect through organsational will to create policies, processes and interventions to tackle bullying. It recognises and comes from the perspective that organisations should seek to change themselves rather than from the perspective of statutory change to enforce good practice.

Evelyn M Field - Strategies for surviving bullying at work. This is a sort of up-beat self-help book and a nice easy read for those who do not feel they want to delve too heavily into the intellectual elements of bullying. It has some great tips, some of which we found really useful and others not. You can take or leave what you want from it. Certain it is a book that acknowledges the suffering bullying causes without overwhelming the reader.

Lynn Larson Armstrong - How to be a Pink Flamingo in a Brown Duck Pond.

An interesting allegorical read. Strangely captivating in comparing the world of corporate business to flamingos and ducks. The outcome of which is to find a new and more meaningful way to function in life than just being another animal in the corporate jungle. 

Elaine N Aron - The Highly Sensitive Person. How to thrive when the world overwhelms you
Great book for anyone who thinks they are sensitive generally to others emotions, atmospheres and need alone time to download. Very good for those that find working in a hot-house work environment difficult or who become stressed in noisy or highly charged work environments. Helps the reader feel settled with their personality type and good in general for people interested in self development/understanding and personality. It has advice on how to find a better fit in a extroverted and go-getter society. A good read, jargon-free and interesting.

Francis Cole - Overcoming Chronic Pain. A self help guide using CBT to assist with chronic pain. As more and more people are dealing with stressors leading to musculo-skeletal disorders and chronic pain this book is really a must. It explains how to reduce chronic pain by simple techniques and examples. It also explains how chronic pain affects the brain. As more and more of us are working with painful conditions in a sit-down society, this easily accessible book may provide the root to working longer and more comfortably by stopping pain controlling your life..



As we come across more books that we feel are helpful we will add to the list. Do let us know any of your favourites. We also like The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, The Road Less Travelled by M Scott Peck and Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat-Zinn Ph.D.